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BLACK LIVES MATTER (continued in comments & Storie

BLACK LIVES MATTER (continued in comments & Stories). I know most of you come here for happy, colorful, uplifting posts. And I love to deliver that. But I hope you will take the time to read this too. It’s important that we acknowledge the trauma occurring right now, and that has been occurring for so long.
I like to live in my bubble. And it’s especially easy to do in Palm Springs. I typically avoid the news or anything unpleasant for my own mental well-being and because I believe that we have to take responsibility for what we ingest. And while that’s worked pretty well for me in life, I recognize that is 1000% privilege.
A lot of people have problems with the P word – privilege. I used to be one of them.
Many bristle at it. “I didn’t grow up with money.” “I had nothing.” “I pulled myself up on my own with hard work.” But that isn’t all that privilege is. That couldn’t be more crystal clear now. Privilege is the ability to leave your home and not feel afraid and like you have a target on your back (or even BE in your home and feel like you have a target on your back). If you’d rather call it having a leg up, fine. Semantics is NOT the issue.
But there was a short video I reposted to my Stories yesterday of Jane Elliot asking a group (I believe she was a reverend and she was addressing a room full of white people). She asked a simple question: “Please stand up if you’d like to be treated like a black person in America.” As you might imagine, NO ONE stood up. And I’d be surprised if anyone would stand up right now.
I used to think that if I participated in a protest that wasn’t about “my group” so to speak, it would look like I wasn’t sincere, or like I was co-opting someone else’s struggle and pain. Like it wouldn’t be authentic. Like seeing men at a womens march. But that is 1000% WRONG.
The easiest way for me to understand that was to think about the example of sexual assault. Sexual assault is NOT a womens issue. Yes, they/we are the victims or it, but it is 1000% a mens problem. THEY should bear the burden of fixing it. Women aren’t perpetrating it. MEN need to fix it. {continued in comments}👇🏻👇🏼👇🏿

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